Tis not the wind but the set of the sail

“I am more and more convinced that our happiness or our unhappiness depends far more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves.” — Karl Wilhelm Von Humboldt 1767-1835, German Statesman

So, how do you meet the events of life in a such a way that they serve you rather than shackle you? What makes one person’s perspective of an event negative or pessimistic, while another’s view of the very same event can be positive or optimistic? I’ve read two books which shed some light on this subject: Learned Optimism by Martin E. P. Seligman, Ph.D. and Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Dr. Daniel G Amen.

Both of those books offer tools which anyone can learn and use to reframe a situation so that it can serve you rather than harming you or completely draining you. My challenge is to put what I’ve learned into practice. It is still a mystery to me though why some people seem to understand and use the tools naturally with no training or without reading a book. Learned Optimism says that some of that can be explained by how we are raised. Change Your Brain attributes some of it to areas of the brain physically functioning improperly.

What do you think? How do you reframe events so that they don’t take you out of the game? How do you maintain your positive spirits and attitudes? I certainly wish I had the books on hand to share some of the tools, alas I checked them out of the library and returned them. I do intend to purchase them though. I wonder how much I can share without infringing upon the copyright of the authors?

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