Archive for February, 2008

2008/02/29

Quote of the Day 20080229

“High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.” — Charles Kettering 1876 – 1958, Inventor

I do believe in having high expectations. You get what you expect. If you expect good things to happen they will. If you expect bad things to happen they will, too. If you expect the best of people they will usually deliver it. If you expect less than their best from people you’ll get that, too.

However, as mentioned before there is such a thing as setting expectations too high. Perfectionism is a pernicious thing, a subtle trap. Read a little of what FLYLady has to say on the subject:

Looking for validation from others instead of looking for it from
yourself is going to make you miserable. If you need others to tell
you how wonderful you are to feel good, you have to ask why. You
can’t clean, stop smoking, lose weight, declutter or anything else if
you are only doing it for the recognition of others. You have to do it
for yourself.

We have to catch our brains before the plot and scheme to destroy our peace. Don’t allow yourself to project unrealistic outcomes. Be happy with what is. Don’t make things worse than they really are or set your expectations so high that nothing can every live up to them. Setting the bar of expectation so high that no one will ever be able to reach it only allows you to always be the victim and the martyr. In your own mind you believe that others really did let you down which makes you right in your feelings of being let down and victimized. You are only a victim of your own thoughts. Be happy with what is and enjoy the process. Don’t allow your perfectionism to ruin another event in your life.

If you are interested in reading the rest of FLYLady’s essay just ask for it in a comment, but be sure to leave your email address in an anti-spam format, like charleshbaker at gmail dot com. Or you can email me at that address.

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2008/02/29

Gratitude Journal 20080228

Thanks

  1. I am thankful for our Crockpot.
  2. I am grateful for electricity.
  3. I am thankful for Bruster’s Ice Cream¬† parlor!
  4. I am grateful for all the people who make Upwards Basketball possible for CIB and MJB.
  5. I am thankful that I could watch most of CIB’s basketball practice.
  6. I am thankful for the Greenville Public Library.
  7. I am grateful that I had money to buy myself an ice cream cone.
  8. I am thankful that I could walk to CIB’s school to see him participate as a speaker in the Black History Month assembly.
  9. I am thankful for the dishwasher.
  10. I am grateful for a really nice neighborhood to live and walk in.

Acknowledging all the good that I am and do

  1. It felt good to be helpful and cook dinner.
  2. It was good to take CIB to basketball practice.
  3. I enjoyed running errands like a responsible adult.
  4. I was health focused by walking to and from CIB’s school.
  5. I focused on health by taking my prescriptions.
  6. I helped my family by doing laundry.
  7. I helped my family by running the dishwasher.
  8. I was consistent by recording some of my vitals on my spreadsheet.
  9. I exercised the self-discipline to walk for exercise.
  10. I exercised the self-discipline to maintain this gratitude journal.
2008/02/28

Quote of the Day 20080228

“A clear vision, backed by definite plans, gives you a tremendous feeling of confidence and personal power.” — Brian Tracy, Author of Maximum Achievement

That quote sounds good. I would really like to believe it. Part of my journey will be to prove it true. I have had what I thought was a clear vision and definite plans to achieve that vision, but it really didn’t give me that feeling of confidence and personal power. At this point in my journey, I feel there is more to self confidence, self esteem and personal power than clear vision and definite plans. If that was all there was to it, then each and every clear plan should be carried out to success and they are not, are they? I know that I have had trouble going from the plan to actually consistently taking the actions required by the plan to achieve my vision. What about you?

2008/02/28

Gratitude Journal 20080227

Thanks

  1. I am grateful that people ask me for help with their computers.
  2. I am thankful to have had oatmeal and raisins for breakfast.
  3. I am grateful that I had money to buy groceries.
  4. I am thankful that I was able to drive our van to get groceries.
  5. I am grateful for grocery stores that stay open late at night.
  6. I am thankful for a warm house on a cold, 21 degrees Fahrenheit, night.
  7. I am grateful for the blankets on my bed.
  8. I am thankful for my children.
  9. I am grateful for my wife.
  10. I am thankful for electric lights.

Acknowledging the good that I am and do

  1. Being helpful by washing, drying and folding the boys jeans.
  2. Being helpful by washing, drying and folding the whites.
  3. Being helpful by trying to fix Mrs. W.S.’s computer problem over the phone.
  4. Being generous and offering to go to her house and resolve the problem when it could not be resolved over the phone.
  5. Being responsible by going grocery shopping.
  6. Being helpful by planning a dinner menu for the next few days.
  7. Being health focused by taking a walk.
  8. Being consistent by taking a walk.
  9. Being health focused by eating oatmeal and raisins for breakfast.
  10. Being health focused by going to bed at a decent hour.
2008/02/26

Gratitude Journal 20080225

After a two week hiatus…

Thanks

  1. I am thankful for all the hard work LEB did to make CIB’s scout banquet a success.
  2. I am grateful that GAB spent some time with LEB and me.
  3. I am thankful that I could drive the van to go get something to eat last night.
  4. I am grateful that I had money to get something to eat.
  5. I am thankful for a nice neighborhood to walk in.
  6. I am grateful for the guy who came and towed away my dead Isuzu Trooper.
  7. I am thankful for the small amount of money that I got for the dead Isuzu Trooper.
  8. I am grateful for a warm, dry house.
  9. I am thankful for my cell phone.
  10. I am grateful for my high speed internet connection.

Acknowledging the good that I am and do

  1. It felt really good to be responsible by making the call to get the Trooper towed away.
  2. I am happy that I took action!
  3. It felt good to focus on health and take a nap.
  4. I focused on health by taking a 20+ minute walk.
  5. I am glad I exercised the self-discipline to make my “Big Rocks” list.
  6. It was great to actually do the things on my “Big Rocks” list.
  7. It felt good to be helpful by running the dishwasher.
  8. I am happy that I focused on health by taking my Rx.
  9. I am glad that I applied what I learned about Big Rocks.
  10. It was good to take care of the dog.
2008/02/13

Quote of the Day 20080213

“Fear melts when you take action towards a goal you really want.” — Robert G Allen, Author of Multiple Streams of Income

I understand the concept of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, but lately I’ve had a lot more fear than action. I’ve got to find a way to take some steps towards my goals, steps that are outside my comfort zone, but steps that are not so big as to be paralyzing. The funny thing is that some of the steps that I’m contemplating but not acting on now used to be easy, but somewhere along the way my self-confidence shrunk to the point where those once small, easy actions seem insurmountable.

2008/02/13

Gratitude Journal 20080212

Thanks

  1. I am thankful that I had money to order pizza for dinner.
  2. I am grateful that GAB’s bus driver found and kept her phone for her.
  3. I am thankful that LEB could take MJB to basketball practice.
  4. I am grateful that our hot water tank worked well enough for GAB to wash and deep condition her hair, but still provide hot water for MJB’s and CIB’s showers.
  5. I am thankful for the rain.
  6. I am grateful for the beautiful sunrise.
  7. I am thankful for my high speed internet connection that allows me to work from home.
  8. I am grateful that CIB and MJB walked home safely from school.
  9. I am thankful for the short break I had from work to eat dinner with the family.
  10. I am grateful for Senator Obama’s impressive victories in VA, D.C. and MD!

Acknowledging the good I am and do

  1. It felt so good to maintain my consistency by walking for 20+ minutes.
  2. It felt  so good walking for 20+ minutes and focusing on my health.
  3. I am glad that I took time to focus on my family by having dinner with them.
  4. I am glad that I focused on health by going to bed at a decent hour.
  5. It is good to exercise the self-discipline to get dressed for work everyday even though I work at home.
  6. I am happy that I was helpful by folding clothes.
  7. It felt good to be able to provide dinner for the family by ordering pizza.
  8. I am glad to have exercised the self discipline to shave my beard.
  9. I am glad to have exercised the self discipline to shower.
  10. I am glad to have focused on health by taking my prescriptions.
2008/02/11

Quote of the Day 20080211

“You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile.” — Brian Tracy, Author

Don’t have much to say about this one, other than it is empirically true and yet another restating of The Slight Edge.

2008/02/11

Gratitude Journal 20080209 and 20080210

Thanks

  1. I am thankful for a good church service.
  2. I am grateful for all the CCD teachers at church
  3. I am thankful for the new downtown Publix supermarket.
  4. I am grateful that LEB and I got to have breakfast at the downtown Atlanta Bread Company while CIB and MJB were in CCD class.
  5. I am thankful for the opportunity to see No Country for Old Men with LEB and VC.
  6. I am grateful for beautiful sunrises.
  7. I am thankful for LEB taking CIB and MJB to the cub scout den meeting where one of the dad’s helped the boys cut their Pinewood Derby cars.
  8. I am grateful to LEB for cooking dinner.
  9. I am thankful that we had cough medicine for CIB and MJB.
  10. I am grateful that CIB is feeling better.

Acknowledging the good that I am and do

  1. I am happy that I was helpful by running the clock during MJB’s basketball game.
  2. It felt good to be considerate and let CIB’s coach know that he was sick and wouldn’t be playing.
  3. I am glad that I was open to going to the movies with LEB and VC.
  4. It felt good to get up and go to church.
  5. I am glad that I focused on health by taking a walk on Saturday.
  6. I am glad that I focused on health and listened to my body and didn’t walk on Sunday.
  7. I am glad that I was helpful by folding clothes.
  8. I am glad that I was helpful by washing and drying clothes.
  9. It felt good to be helpful by putting away the food from dinner.
  10. I am happy that I focused on health by going to bed at a decent hour.
2008/02/08

Quote of the Day 20080208

“I believe through learning and application of what you learn, you can solve any problem, overcome any obstacle and achieve any goal that you can set for yourself.” — Brian Tracy, Author of Eat That Frog!

This is so key to our continuing personal development. I was just listening to one of my mentor’s, Jeff Olson author of The Slight Edge, talking about the cycle of Learn Knowledge to Activity Knowledge and how that will lead you to higher levels of performance eventually making you worthy of being modeled and thus transformed from student to teacher.

The part I’ve not been doing consistently is applying what I’ve read about and listened to in countless business, leadership and self-help books to the activities I undertake. I need to take more action and apply what I’ve learned to that action instead of sitting back hoping for some spontaneous change to occur as a result of all I’ve studied. How about you?